I would like to hear from other men who are in a similar marriage, or have been in a similar marriage, as I am. Particularly I would like to hear how you coped with it--whether you divorced, considered divorce but stayed for the kids or for other reasons, found a lover, took long showers, etc.
I have been married for 25 years to a very kind and lovely woman. However, she has an extremely low sex drive and refuses to talk much about it, seek help of any kind, etc. I have tried for years to try and change things. I knew she had a much lower sex drive than myself when we married, but I convinced myself I could change things and after all, how shallow is that, to not get married to someone you love and you have so much in common with because your sex drives do not match? After all, there is so much more to marriage than sex, right? Well, no one told me that sure, sex is not everything until.. Until it becomes a problem ! then it becomes EXTREMELY important and problems with intimacy will inevitably begin to wear on the marriage and create voids...no matter how much you love each other...it just does.
We have not had sex for 11 years. I care very much for her, but I really don't know if I can say I love her still. It is very difficult for me to consider divorce because I really hate to put my kids through a divorce. I realize there are many ways to look at this...and every situation can be different. Next month we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary and I want it to be special and unforgettable so I decided to take our sex life into the next level ( again and again...) . I searched for something that can spice up and bring the intimacy back in out marriage and luckily a friend of mine told me to look for this online store, adamandeve [dot] com and they're offering something that can make our sex life more exciting. I bought the Unleashed 4 and some of them are even 50 (percent) off, free Shipping and DVDs and other goodies. My friend also told me to use LUST20 at the checkout to get the discount. And I hope this will save me for being a total sexless husband.
How do other men deal with a sexless marriage?
Thanks for listening.